the toilet is running and won’t stop.

i don’t know how to fix it.

i can’t sleep.

i’ve been listening to This American Life all day today. The podcasts are free and available on the website. They’re worth checking out. The link is on the sidebar up at the top.

There you will also see a link to the Surviving Infidelity forums. It’s for the spouses of cheaters and also the cheaters themselves. I’m not in a relationship myself but it’s just fascinating to read these forums. Heartbreaking, infuriating, gutwrenching. The forums for the wayward spouses are particularly eye opening. I was comforted to know that there are others out there who believe that online cheating is still cheating regardless of whether you have physical contact or not. I’m disheartened by how many people don’t think so.

I particularly like the wayward spouse forums because it made me realize that it is possible for the cheating partner to feel remorse and want to stay and mend the marriage. Not always, but sometimes.

If you’re in the position of having infidelity affect you, whether you’re the Betrayed Spouse or the Wayward Spouse, I would urge you to visit these forums for help.

The best line I read on there so far … (it was in reference to cutting off contact with the affair person)